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CQ Roasts & Toasts Bob Merry

Thursday wasn't just another day in the life of CQ CEO Bob Merry whose departure from his home of 22 years is imminent, it was party central.

Part One: Cocktail reception on the rooftop of The Hay Adams with colleagues Mike Riley, Bruce Drake, Ken Sands and Loesje Troglia.

As happens at these events, the tributes were plentiful, but the crowd favorite was from Victoria Munroe of the advertising department. "Actually, I'm very glad Bob could join us tonight. He initially said he couldn't make it because he was going to be hiking the Appalachian Trail... Before speaking tonight I had two thoughts. First, how do you toast a charismatic, popular, visionary and successful leader? And, second, I am so glad that that is not at all relevant tonight."

And, "Bob, we were hoping to get President Obama to call in and wish you well. We requested just 5 minutes of the President's time, but the White House said he couldn't do it. But Joe Biden did say he'd be glad to call in for about 3 hours," Munroe went on.

Part Two: Dinner with friends and colleagues at Teatro Goldoni hosted by publicist Janet Donovan, who is also a publicist for CQ.

That portion of the evening was "off the record," but we managed to snag this one photo from them. In attendance: Al Hunt, Jeff Stein, Craig Crawford, Mort Kondracke, Myra McPherson, David Rapp, Bruce Drake, Margaret Warner, Keith White, Jerome Cramer, and Judy Woodruff.

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Bob Merry gets roasted by friends & colleagues


Bob Merry: Author * Journalist * Editor * Media Extraordinaire * Damn Fine CEO


Mort Kondrake * Bruce Drake * Al Hunt * Margaret Warner






a-comin'


This summer rain / hail /thunder / lightning is making me go b a n a n a s

Carle Shi

Make up, oil on canvas, 40" x 50"

Carle Shi

Anna Killian

Waiting for Cleo, 8" x 12", oil on poplar panel

Anna Killian

Ginny Stanford

MFK Fisher, acrylic and silver leaf, 26 x 39", 1991

Ginny Stanford

Jil Sander Fall 2009 campaign preview: Natasha Poly, Photo: Willy Vanderperre

Willy Vanderperre photographed Natasha Poly for the Fall 2009 Jil Sander campaign on May 1st, 2009 in Paris with Stylist: Olivier Rizzo.

Fall 2009 Jil Sander campaign
Model: Natasha Poly
Photographer: Willy Vanderperre
Stylist: Olivier Rizzo
Shoot date: May 1, 2009

Prada L’Eau Ambrée Fragrance campaign preview: Viktoriya Sasonkina & Toni Garrn, Photo Steven Meisel



Mr Ward, Photo Hugh Lippe

Hugh Lippe photographed Tony Ward for Contributing Editor on June 7, 2009 with stylist Vasoula Barbagiannis.

Contributing Editor Editorial
Model: Tony Ward
Photographer: Hugh Lippe
Stylist: Vasoula Barbagiannis

French Vogue August 2009 preview - Regina Feoktistova, Photo: Inez Van Lamsweerde & Vinoodh Matadin, Stylist: Joe McKenna

Inez Van Lamsweerde and Vinoodh Matadin photographed Regina Feoktistova for French Vogue on June 2, 2009 with stylist Joe McKenna.

French Vogue August 2009 Editorial
Model: Regina Feoktistova
Photographers: Inez Van Lamsweerde and Vinoodh Matadin
Stylist: Joe McKenna

Special thank to Maud of Lexposure & Fashion Does it Better for the preview photo.

Catherine Prescott

Grace, oil on wood panel, 2005, 12" x 9"

Annemarie Busschers

Self-Portrait I, Japanese paper, pencil, acrylic on canvas, 160cm x 130cm, 2004

Annemarie Busschers

Katharine Weymouth's Summer White Party

If last Saturday night's White Party hosted by Katharine Weymouth, Goli Sheikoleslami, Molly Elkin & Ivan Wasserman is any indication as to how The Washington Post Publisher is surviving the controversy surrounding her 'salon' gatherings, you'd have to give her a thumbs up.


Could have been the weather: perfect. Could have been the guests: eclectic. Could have been the house: fab. Could have been the music and dancing: fun. Whatever the reason, she showed no visible signs of stress.


Harry Jaffe, longtime follower of The Washington Post for Washingtonian, may have gotten it right when he noted in an August 2008 article: " The woman seems unflappable. I’m beginning to think that longtime journalist Sally Quinn was not far off when she said, “Katharine is one of the most authentic people I’ve ever met.”


Considering her typical day goes like this: “I’ve been up since 5:55 and going nonstop. Got the three kids up. Put drops in the eyes of Red, the Cavalier King Charles spaniel. Fed the kids. Made lunches for the kids. Attempted to work out. Got two to the bus stop and the youngest to day camp at Beauvoir," Jaffe may be on to something.


Top photo: Molly Elkin and Beth Solomon


Right photo: Harry Jaffe

The Burning Bed

Any man who puts his hand on a woman, especially in front of his children is a piece of shit.

Farrah Fawcett showed the horror of being a mother who regularly gets beaten by her husband, with no one to turn to for help, in "The Burning Bed" .

Today there are resources for women who are being abused - hotlines, shelters, support groups, the police.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) –This is a crisis intervention and referral phone line for domestic violence.









The Burning Bed is a non-fiction book by Faith McNulty about battered Dansville, Michigan housewife, Francine Hughes. After thirteen years of domestic abuse at the hands of her husband James Berlin ("Mickey") Hughes, she set fire to the bed he was sleeping in on March 9, 1977. James Hughes was killed and the house destroyed in the resulting inferno.

On the night of the fire, Hughes told her children to put their coats on and wait for her in the car. She then started the fire with gasoline poured around the bed Mickey Hughes was sleeping in. After the house had caught fire, Hughes drove with her three children to the local police station in order to confess.

Hughes was tried in Lansing and found by a jury of her peers to be not guilty by reason of insanity.

Having turned the book into a made-for-television movie, McNulty's screenplay, "The Burning Bed" premiered on NBC on October 8, 1984. The movie, directed by Robert Greenwald, starred Farrah Fawcett as Francine Hughes and Paul LeMat as Mickey Hughes.

It is not always easy to recognize abuse, even for victims themselves.

If you are not sure, you might be abused if:
• Your partner does things that make you afraid.
• Your partner does things to control you.
• Your partner threatens to hurt you.
• Your partner physically abuses you.

Remember:
• You are not alone.
• You are not to blame.
• You do not deserve to be abused.
• There is help available.

Domestic Violence and Abusive Relationships
Are you ever afraid of your partner?
Does your partner threaten to hurt you?
Does your partner control all the money?
Has your partner ever pushed you or shoved you, thrown things at you, or forced you to have sex?

Does your partner stalk you and show up uninvited at your job or when you’re out with friends?

If these experiences are part of your life, you are not alone and help is available in your community. If you are in New York City and are being abused by your partner, Safe Horizon can help you. Safe Horizon is the largest provider of domestic violence services in the country. Their counselors are compassionate and experienced, and our goal is to ensure that you and your children are safe. They understand how painful it is to live with abuse and how difficult it can be to talk about your situation. You might feel hopeless, desperate, confused, and alone. You may not want to tell people about your situation because you feel afraid, ashamed, or embarrassed. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

Spousal abuse and battery are used for one purpose: to gain and maintain total control over the victim. In addition to physical violence, abusers use the following tactics to exert power over their wives or partners:

Dominance — Abusive individuals need to feel in charge of the relationship. They will make decisions for you and the family, tell you what to do, and expect you to obey without question. Your abuser may treat you like a servant, child, or even as his possession.

Humiliation — An abuser will do everything he can to make you feel bad about yourself, or defective in some way. After all, if you believe you're worthless and that no one else will want you, you're less likely to leave. Insults, name-calling, shaming, and public put-downs are all weapons of abuse designed to erode your self-esteem and make you feel powerless.

Isolation — In order to increase your dependence on him, an abusive partner will cut you off from the outside world. He may keep you from seeing family or friends, or even prevent you from going to work or school. You may have to ask permission to do anything, go anywhere, or see anyone. Source: Domestic Abuse Intervention Project, MN

Threats — Abusers commonly use threats to keep their victims from leaving or to scare them into dropping charges. Your abuser may threaten to hurt or kill you, your children, other family members, or even pets. He may also threaten to commit suicide, file false charges against you, or report you to child services.

Intimidation — Your abuser may use a variety of intimation tactics designed to scare you into submission. Such tactics include making threatening looks or gestures, smashing things in front of you, destroying property, hurting your pets, or putting weapons on display. The clear message is that if you don't obey, there will be violent consequences.

Denial and blame — Abusers are very good at making excuses for the inexcusable. They will blame their abusive and violent behavior on a bad childhood, a bad day, and even on the victims of their abuse. Your abuser may minimize the abuse or deny that it occurred. He will commonly shift the responsibility onto you: Somehow, his violence and abuse is your fault.

Domestic abuse falls into a common pattern, or cycle of violence:
Abuse — The abuser lashes out with aggressive or violent behavior. The abuse is a power play designed to show the victim "who is boss."
Guilt — After the abusive episode, the abuser feels guilt, but not over what he's done to the victim. The guilt is over the possibility of being caught and facing consequences.
Rationalization or excuses — The abuser rationalizes what he's done. He may come up with a string of excuses or blame the victim for his own abusive behavior—anything to shift responsibility from himself.
"Normal" behavior — The abuser does everything he can to regain control and keep the victim in the relationship. He may act as if nothing has happened, or he may turn on the charm. This peaceful honeymoon phase may give the victim hope that the abuser has really changed this time.
Fantasy and planning — The abuser begins to fantasize about abusing his victim again, spending a lot of time thinking about what she's done wrong and how he'll make her pay. Then he makes a plan for turning the fantasy of abuse into reality.
Set-up — The abuser sets up the victim and puts his plan in motion, creating a situation where he can justify abusing her.

The Full Cycle of Domestic Violence:

A man abuses his partner. After he hits her, he experiences self-directed guilt. He says, "I'm sorry for hurting you." What he does not say is, "Because I might get caught." He then rationalizes his behavior by saying that his partner is having an affair with someone. He tells her "If you weren't such a worthless whore I wouldn't have to hit you." He then acts contrite, reassuring her that he will not hurt her again. He then fantasizes and reflects on past abuse and how he will hurt her again. He plans on telling her to go to the store to get some groceries. What he withholds from her is that she has a certain amount of time to do the shopping. When she is held up in traffic and is a few minutes late, he feels completely justified in assaulting her because "you're having an affair with the store clerk." He has just set her up.

Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are real.

Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence and even murder. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. No one deserves this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.

Your abuser’s apologies and loving gestures in between the episodes of abuse can make it difficult to leave. He may make you believe that you are the only person who can help him, that things will be different this time, and that he truly loves you. However, the dangers of staying are real.

Domestic abuse often escalates from threats and verbal abuse to physical violence and even murder. And while physical injury may be the most obvious danger, the emotional and psychological consequences of domestic abuse are also severe. No one deserves this kind of pain—and your first step to breaking free is recognizing that your situation is abusive. Once you acknowledge the reality of the abusive situation, then you can get the help you need.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence, sometimes called battering, relationship abuse, or intimate partner violence, is a pattern of behavior used to establish power and control over another person through fear and intimidation, often including the threat or use of violence. Domestic violence is a crime that can include physical abuse, emotional abuse, economic abuse, and sexual abuse. Batterers use threats, intimidation, isolation, and other behaviors to maintain power over their victims. Domestic violence impacts everyone, regardless of income, race, ethnicity, sexual orientation, or religion. Thirty percent of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year (Lieberman Research, Inc., Tracking Survey conducted for The Advertising Council and the Family Violence Prevention Fund, July-October 1996). Domestic violence also affects same-sex relationships and men as victims.
If you are being abused, call the hotline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

It's impossible to know with certainty what goes on behind closed doors, but there are some telltale signs and symptoms of domestic violence and abuse. If you witness a number of warning signs in a friend, family member, or co-worker, you can reasonably suspect domestic abuse.

Warning Signs to look for:


  • Frequent injuries, with the excuse of “accidents”


  • Frequent and sudden absences from work or school


  • Frequent, harassing phone calls from the partner


  • Fear of the partner, references to the partner's anger


  • Personality changes (e.g. an outgoing woman becomes withdrawn)


  • Excessive fear of conflict


  • Submissive behavior, lack of assertiveness


  • Isolation from friends and family


  • Insufficient resources to live (money, credit cards, car)


  • Depression, crying, low self-esteem

Safe Horizon Hotlines

You can call Safe Horizon’s hotlines 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The calls are free, and counselors are able to help you no matter what language you speak. Counselors provide crisis counseling, safety planning, assistance with finding shelter, referrals to Safe Horizon programs or other organizations, advocacy with the police, and other crucial services.

Safe Horizon’s Domestic Violence Hotline:800.621.HOPE (4673)

Safe Horizon’s Crime Victims Hotline:866.689.HELP (4357)

Safe Horizon’s Rape, Sexual Assault & Incest Hotline:212.227.3000

TDD phone number for all hotlines:866.604.5350






























Francien Krieg

Dream Woman, oil on canvas, 2009

Francien Krieg

Lula Mari

Bordadora, oil on canvas, 50cm x 70cm, 2007

Lula Mari

Who Does She Think She Is

Who Does She Think She Is? is a film that was directed by Pamela Tanner Boll, co-executive producer of the Academy Award-winning Best Documentary Feature “Born Into Brothels.” The film examines the mothering-versus-working choice faced by American women, and women artists in particular.

The trailer at the beginning of the site is quite compelling.

To find more information about the film and Screenings that may be in your area, visit here: Who Does She Think She Is

Ali Cavanaugh

interior light, 30" x 30", fresco

Ali Cavanaugh

Julia Ciccarone

Untitled 17, 2007, oil on board, 20cm x 30cm

Julia Ciccarone

Miranda Girard

Christine #2, oil on canvas, 36"x 40"

Miranda Girard

See By Chloe fall 2009 campaign preview: Nimue Smit, Photo: Mikael Jansson

Mikael Jansson photographed Nimue Smit for See By Chloe fall 2009 campaign on April 16, 2009 in Madrid, Spain with stylist Marie Amelie Sauve.

See By Chloe fall 2009 campaign
Model: Nimue Smit
Photographer: Mikael Jansson
Stylist: Marie Amelie Sauve
Art Director: Donald Schneider

The List, Were you on it?


If you were any where other than Jane Stanton Hitchcock's book party at Cafe Milano last Thursday night, you were at the wrong party. Her latest tomb, "Mortal Friends", is not only a mystery to die for, but an invitation to guess who's who in the thinly veiled book about Washingtonians amid high society and politicians.....not necessarily a list you don't want to be on. Her husband Jim Hoagland and she spend a lot of time walking through Montrose Park in Oak Hill Cemetery which lead her to her current book. "I can't help it you know, I wake up thinking a serial killer is loose. .. a body in Montrose Park..... I like to be twisty in my book. I like things not to be what they seem. I felt that this was a really good opportunity to get to know another side of Washington that social people really don't see." So in Moral Friends, there is a policeman who comes to my heroine and says, "I believe that there maybe a killer hiding in plain sight in society, and you seem to know about society, and in order to know the true civil world, you have to know what the lies are." "I kept going to these dinner parties and thinking, okay, would I know evil if it sat next to me?" Think Ted Bundy. "Ted Bundy, my poster boy. God, I would have dated Ted, in fact, I did date Ted. I was in Aspen around the time he was there. I had long dark hair, parted in the middle, the perfect candidate and I think that's a very important thing to realize when you look at other people. You are going to trust people who look more like you do, and that's what this book is about in many ways that the female is trying to--you know, who do you really trust and what do you really know about people? Do you know it's simply because they tell you. It is amazing how people check what it is that they're tell you." "All mystery writers are killers at heart. I remembered Churchill said, "Now the truth is so important that she must be surrounded by a bodyguard of lies." "Well in mystery writing, it's just the opposite. The lie is so important that you have to be surrounded by these truths." Can't tell you more since Jane 'borrowed' my book to autograph for Dr. Jill Biden. Playing the guessing game: Andrea Mitchell & Alan Greenspan, Janet Langhart & Bill Cohen Aniko Gaal Schott, Ann & Lloyd Hand, Ann Jordan, Arnaud de Borchgrave, Ben Bradlee, Bob Schieffer, Buffy Cafritz, Capricia Marshall, Deborah Gore Dean, Diana Negroponte, Donna & Mack McLarty, Ina Ginsburg, Jane Harmon, Jim & Kate Lehrer, John Negroponte, Judith Terra, Liz Stevens, Lucky Roosevelt, Kevin Chaffee, Michael Beschloss, Mike Peabody, Nini Ferguson, Rima Al-Sabah, Sally Bedell & Steve Smith, Sally Quinn, Susan Blumenthal, Susan Eisenhower, Walter & Didi Cutler and Winston Bao Lord.

Photo: Jane Stanton Hitchcock earlier in the day at Nathans.